Resolutions can suck, but is it really the resolutions that suck? Now, I’m not saying you suck, hear me out. The number one reason resolutions don’t stick is because we don’t plan them out and take action. Most people say they want to make a change, but they don’t make a plan. Instead, they know they’ll be back to their old ways in a month. They know their resolutions will fail, so they absolutely do. This year, you could do that, or you can make resolutions that stick. It’s completely up to you. If you want to succeed, keep reading.
Goals can absolutely change your life, if you make a timeline. Be honest with yourself. How long will reaching your goal take? Be realistic. While living in the real world, I know that there’s no way I can lose 250 pounds in a year. That’s not healthy. Losing all of the fat I need to lose is a long term goal, so I know I need to start by thinking long term. Instead of just thinking about this year, I have to start by looking at the big picture then narrowing it down.
For me, I know it’ll take a solid three years of hard work to get to my goal. In order to know you can reach your goal, you must have a realistic timeline. If you set unrealistic timelines, you will absolutely give up before you get anywhere, because you know reaching this goal is impossible. Ask yourself if you can achieve your goal in that amount of time, and make sure the answer is unequivocally yes.
Once you have figured out how long you will need to reach this goal, break down what needs to happen each year for this goal to be met. For weight loss, I have to start by figuring out how much weight I can realistically lose in one year. I know that in the first year, I can lose more because I have more to lose, and as I weigh less, it will get harder to lose weight. Essentially, all three years are not going to be equal. My goal is to lose 100 pounds the first year, and 75 each year after that. Could I lose more in year one? Yes, and that’s okay.
Remember, we don’t want to set a goal that we’re unsure of. I think I might be able to lose more than that, but I know for a fact that 100 pounds in a year (for me) is sustainable and realistic.
Now that we have figured out what we’re going to accomplish this year to move toward our long-term goal, we need to break down the year. Each month, what are we going to accomplish in order to succeed? Map this out, and be as specific as possible. If you can break it down into daily tasks, do that. The more we break our goals down, the easier it will be to see ourselves succeeding, which brings me to tip number two.
Resolutions can be powerful, but can you actually see yourself accomplishing these goals? If you broke down your goals into monthly and then daily tasks, you should be able to. While writing out daily tasks that will get you toward your goal, see yourself doing these tasks. For me, I know that I have to count calories and stick to the amount of calories I need in a day in order to lose 100 pounds this year.
In my mind’s eye, I can see myself inputting calories, staying in a caloric deficit, and I can see myself shrinking. I’m not focusing on the numbers on the scale, because I know that doing this will get results. Instead of visualizing the scale, I’m visualizing non-scale victories like my clothes becoming too big, and having to move the seat in my car closer to the steering wheel. Our subconscious mind thinks in pictures. Feed it pictures of success, so it knows you’re going to succeed.
Some people have a hard time visualizing their goals because they’ve never seen themselves where they want to be. In my case, sometimes it’s difficult to visualize reaching my ultimate fat loss goal because I’ve never been there. What’s a girl to do? Create a vision board! Seriously, find pictures that align with your goal, and put them where you’ll always see them. For me, it’s really helpful to find pictures of slim women, but only from the neck down. This makes it a lot easier to see myself at my goal weight, I just try to see my face on their body. It sounds really weird, but trust me, it helps a ton. If you’re trying to reach financial goals, get pictures of money, or wealth. Picture your bank account with the amount of money you want in it. Do what you have to do in order to visualize your success.
Emotionally, are you ready for change? Real change takes patience and time. In order to make real, lasting change, we need to make time to get our emotions in check. When we’re stressed out, we can only make good choices so long before old habits kick back in. Our brains will do what they have to do in order to keep us comfortable. If you’re like me, food is what your brain turns to in order to feel comforted. In order to move past this, we need to have a plan for stress.
Decide what you’re going to do on a daily basis to remain emotionally grounded.
Meditation is one of my tools to keep stress at bay. If you’re looking into that, but unsure, check out this post for more information. Stress is a choice, and in order to change, you have to choose to let go of stress. The other tool I am using to ensure that I’m only eating for physical hunger, is EFT tapping. EFT stands for emotional freedom technique, and I can go into it at a later date, if anyone wants to learn more. If you’re interested now, be sure to look it up on Youtube. There are a ton of helpful videos on there. Basically, before I decide to eat, I gently tap certain points that are calming. This also works any time I’m stressed.
When I’m paying attention to stress, and I can feel stress eating coming on, I tap these points and follow up with a deep breath. This really helps me differentiate between emotional and physical hunger. It helps me stay in control of my decisions, instead of letting my brain make decisions based on patterns from the past. This idea works with any stress relief and any habit you want to change. If your goal is to spend less money, figure out what habits lead to spending too much. Before you spend anything, take a deep breath, let go of the emotion behind the urge to spend, and then use logic to make a decision. You don’t have to tap. Some people count to ten. Some wait ten or twenty minutes to see if they are able to forget about the urge they had. Do what works for you, but have an emotional plan.
That’s it! The three things that will make your resolutions a reality are to figure out a timeline, visualize success, and to have an emotional plan. If you do these three things, this will be the year you make your resolutions a reality. Even if you’re not reading this on January 1st, you still have the rest of the year to get things done. Don’t give up until next year just because you didn’t start on the first. Today really is the first day of the rest of your life.
Now it’s your turn. In the comment section below, feel free to share your resolutions and how you plan on being successful. If you’re having a hard time getting started, I’m here to help, just use the contact form in the side bar to send me a message!
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