Create Change With Cynthia

3 Ways To Kick-Start Your Resolutions

By January 1, 2018 General, Health and Fitness, Law of Attraction

Resolutions can suck, but is it really the resolutions that suck? Now, I’m not saying you suck, hear me out. The number one reason resolutions don’t stick is because we don’t plan them out and take action. Most people say they want to make a change, but they don’t make a plan. Instead, they know they’ll be back to their old ways in a month. They know their resolutions will fail, so they absolutely do. This year, you could do that, or you can make resolutions that stick. It’s completely up to you. If you want to succeed, keep reading.

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Time

Goals can absolutely change your life, if you make a timeline. Be honest with yourself. How long will reaching your goal take? Be realistic. While living in the real world, I know that there’s no way I can lose 250 pounds in a year. That’s not healthy. Losing all of the fat I need to lose is a long term goal, so I know I need to start by thinking long term. Instead of just thinking about this year, I have to start by looking at the big picture then narrowing it down.

For me, I know it’ll take a solid three years of hard work to get to my goal. In order to know you can reach your goal, you must have a realistic timeline. If you set unrealistic timelines, you will absolutely give up before you get anywhere, because you know reaching this goal is impossible. Ask yourself if you can achieve your goal in that amount of time, and make sure the answer is unequivocally yes.

Once you have figured out how long you will need to reach this goal, break down what needs to happen each year for this goal to be met. For weight loss, I have to start by figuring out how much weight I can realistically lose in one year. I know that in the first year, I can lose more because I have more to lose, and as I weigh less, it will get harder to lose weight. Essentially, all three years are not going to be equal. My goal is to lose 100 pounds the first year, and 75 each year after that. Could I lose more in year one? Yes, and that’s okay.

Remember, we don’t want to set a goal that we’re unsure of. I think I might be able to lose more than that, but I know for a fact that 100 pounds in a year (for me) is sustainable and realistic.

Now that we have figured out what we’re going to accomplish this year to move toward our long-term goal, we need to break down the year. Each month, what are we going to accomplish in order to succeed? Map this out, and be as specific as possible. If you can break it down into daily tasks, do that. The more we break our goals down, the easier it will be to see ourselves succeeding, which brings me to tip number two.

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Visualization

Resolutions can be powerful, but can you actually see yourself accomplishing these goals? If you broke down your goals into monthly and then daily tasks, you should be able to. While writing out daily tasks that will get you toward your goal, see yourself doing these tasks. For me, I know that I have to count calories and stick to the amount of calories I need in a day in order to lose 100 pounds this year.

In my mind’s eye, I can see myself inputting calories, staying in a caloric deficit, and I can see myself shrinking. I’m not focusing on the numbers on the scale, because I know that doing this will get results. Instead of visualizing the scale, I’m visualizing non-scale victories like my clothes becoming too big, and having to move the seat in my car closer to the steering wheel. Our subconscious mind thinks in pictures. Feed it pictures of success, so it knows you’re going to succeed.

Some people have a hard time visualizing their goals because they’ve never seen themselves where they want to be. In my case, sometimes it’s difficult to visualize reaching my ultimate fat loss goal because I’ve never been there. What’s a girl to do? Create a vision board! Seriously, find pictures that align with your goal, and put them where you’ll always see them. For me, it’s really helpful to find pictures of slim women, but only from the neck down. This makes it a lot easier to see myself at my goal weight, I just try to see my face on their body. It sounds really weird, but trust me, it helps a ton. If you’re trying to reach financial goals, get pictures of money, or wealth. Picture your bank account with the amount of money you want in it. Do what you have to do in order to visualize your success.

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Emotional Plan

Emotionally, are you ready for change? Real change takes patience and time. In order to make real, lasting change, we need to make time to get our emotions in check. When we’re stressed out, we can only make good choices so long before old habits kick back in. Our brains will do what they have to do in order to keep us comfortable. If you’re like me, food is what your brain turns to in order to feel comforted. In order to move past this, we need to have a plan for stress.

Decide what you’re going to do on a daily basis to remain emotionally grounded. 

Meditation is one of my tools to keep stress at bay. If you’re looking into that, but unsure, check out this post for more information. Stress is a choice, and in order to change, you have to choose to let go of stress. The other tool I am using to ensure that I’m only eating for physical hunger, is EFT tapping. EFT stands for emotional freedom technique, and I can go into it at a later date, if anyone wants to learn more. If you’re interested now, be sure to look it up on Youtube. There are a ton of helpful videos on there. Basically, before I decide to eat, I gently tap certain points that are calming. This also works any time I’m stressed.

When I’m paying attention to stress, and I can feel stress eating coming on, I tap these points and follow up with a deep breath. This really helps me differentiate between emotional and physical hunger. It helps me stay in control of my decisions, instead of letting my brain make decisions based on patterns from the past. This idea works with any stress relief and any habit you want to change. If your goal is to spend less money, figure out what habits lead to spending too much. Before you spend anything, take a deep breath, let go of the emotion behind the urge to spend, and then use logic to make a decision. You don’t have to tap. Some people count to ten. Some wait ten or twenty minutes to see if they are able to forget about the urge they had. Do what works for you, but have an emotional plan.

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Start Today

That’s it! The three things that will make your resolutions a reality are to figure out a timeline, visualize success, and to have an emotional plan. If you do these three things, this will be the year you make your resolutions a reality. Even if you’re not reading this on January 1st, you still have the rest of the year to get things done. Don’t give up until next year just because you didn’t start on the first. Today really is the first day of the rest of your life. 

Now it’s your turn. In the comment section below, feel free to share your resolutions and how you plan on being successful. If you’re having a hard time getting started, I’m here to help, just use the contact form in the side bar to send me a message!

Thanks for stopping by!

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How to Enhance Your Life by Adjusting Your Perspective

By December 28, 2017 Finances, General, Law of Attraction

Hey you! Welcome and thank you for stopping! There’s something I need you to do. Think back to one of the worst times in your life. Think of the absolute worst time, if you’re able. Now, even though this event is in your mind as negative, how is it also positive?

That’s right, I want you to assign some sort of positive meaning to this terrible event. Like a coin, there are two sides to everything in life. Everything has the opportunity to have positive and negative meaning.

Were you able to give that terrible event some sort of positive side? If not, that’s okay. This post will encourage you to be able to do that. Seeing the positive side to everything in life will enhance your life, if you’re open to letting it.

In a previous post I wrote about how everything in the universe is inherently neutral. No single thing in the universe is good or bad. The truth is, we give things meaning based on our beliefs.

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Forming Beliefs

Our beliefs are based on repeated thoughts. These repeated thoughts begin when we’re little, and they’re formed by what we see from our parents. Our parents’ beliefs become our beliefs, whether they actively teach them to us or we learn from their example. For some people, this is an excellent system, because they have parents who have a positive outlook and do well for themselves. For others, much like myself, this doesn’t necessarily put people on the fast track to abundance.

Growing up, we never had more than what we needed monetarily. My parents worked hard, and we always had what we needed, but they made it more than clear that we never had extra. Based on what I heard growing up, it’s normal to only have enough money to get by.

This is one of the biggest things I learned from them, and I they didn’t even try to teach that to me. They learned it from their parents, who learned it from their parents. The truth is, it is more than possible to have more money than you need. With the right mindset, no matter what we have in our lives, it is more than possible to be abundant.

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Changing Beliefs Changes Life

Now, I’m not saying that I wish my parents would have had different beliefs so that they could have taught me differently. The positive side to being brought up in a house where money is tight is that I have a greater appreciation for all the money I do have. Yes, I have to do work in order to change my perception of money, but my upbringing makes it easier to be truly grateful for what I do have.

The thing is, I could just stick with what I learned, only make enough to get by, and struggle for life. On the flip side, I could use what I learned, figure out how to change my beliefs, and be abundant for life. That sounds better, doesn’t it? I think so.

This idea works with anything in life, though, not just money. Remember how everything is neutral? Well, everything can have a good side, and a bad side. It’s up to us to decide to focus on the positive. We have to take action and focus on the positive as much as possible, to get more out of life. Positive thinking is like any other habit – it gets progressively easier over time. As your positive thinking muscles get stronger, your vibrations raise, and you start to attract all of the good things into your life.

Financially this has been working for me. By having a more positive outlook about money, I’ve noticed that money has been flowing into my life more easily. The more I remind myself that money is coming to me, the more it does. Now, I’m not saying I have become an overnight millionaire, but this has honestly helped. More amounts of unexpected money have come into my life just in the last month than it has in the past year. The only thing I have actually changed is my outlook on money.

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Worst Events

As I continue to strengthen my positive financial outlook, I keep wondering what else I can work on to better myself. That lead me to the question at the beginning of this post. I realize that in order to fully transcend in this life, I need to be able to rise above the worst things that have happened in my life.

Hesitantly, I’m going to share with you what the worst time of my life, and how I can look at it in a more positive way. I’m doing this for my path of transcendence as well as to help others. Changing the way I look at finances is a great example, but I asked you to think of the worst event of your life, so I figured it would only be fair to share mine.

Like many people in America, my parents divorced when I was young. The short of the story is that there was a ton of violent arguing, hard drug use, and eventually my mom left my dad because he wouldn’t stop doing hard drugs. My mom, my sister, and I moved in with my mom’s boyfriend.

He was the most verbally abusive person I have ever met. The type of person who makes it abundantly clear that we were not his kids, talked constant crap about our dad, and hated that I was obese. He was so awful about my obesity that he put surveillance in the kitchen while he was gone to make sure I didn’t eat anything. His addiction was pain pills and booze. Eventually she kicked him to the curb, but the damage was done.

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What I Learned

There is more to the story than that, but I know dwelling won’t change what happened. It has taken me an extremely long time to figure out the positive to all of this. If this happens to you, the most basic way I have found to figure out the positive is to figure out what the lesson is. What lesson did I learn from my parent’s divorce and living with my mom’s boyfriend?

Love! I learned how to love and how not to love. Most of it is how not to love and what love doesn’t look like. My mom making the decision to leave my dad is how to love your kids. It may seem like a large chunk of my life spent on “just” learning about love, but love is one of the most important parts of life. Even now that I say it out loud, just learning how to love after seeing how not to love is a positive perspective.

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Now What?

There are many more lessons that I’m starting to learn from this rough patch, but I’m not quite ready to dive in. Hopefully reading about that will help you learn to see the positive side to the worst time in your life. So now it’s your turn, especially if you had a difficult time with this. Try to think about what you were able to learn, and go from there.

If you’re still having a hard time seeing the positive, feel free to send me a message (to the right there is a contact box) and I would be more than glad to help. Also, if you’ve already worked through turning a seemingly negative event into a positive, feel free to share in a comment. Your experience could help someone else grow into a more positive person. There’s no way to know if you don’t share, so please do.

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Only Read This if You Want More Out of Life

By December 20, 2017 General, Health and Fitness, Law of Attraction, Mental Health

Hello there! Hopefully this holiday season is treating you all well. My goal is to ensure this holiday season goes smoothly for me, which is why I’ve been trying out today’s topic. This is something that can help you get what you want out of every day, if you choose to take action.

Today’s topic is segment intending.

Segment intending is an idea said to originally be from Abraham Hicks, a Law of Attraction authority. I have yet to read one of their books, but I heard about segment intending on Youtube. On my journey to enlightenment and higher levels of awareness, this could honestly help me get to a higher vibration. Little by little I have started actively deciding how I want parts of my day to go. This has been helping me, so read on to learn how to get more of what you want out of life.

First, I’m going to go over the definition of segment intending so that we’re on the same page. It is exactly what it sounds like, but I do want to break it down in case it’s not clear. Each part of the day is technically a segment. Every little part, each span of time where you’re doing one thing or in one place is a segment.

The time that I am sitting down to write this post is a segment. The drive into work is a segment. Even the time you spend in the shower is a segment. You choose how large the segments that you are going to focus on are. I think the best way to think of segments is to not focus on time, but more on activities. By no means do you want to micromanage your day into an overwhelming amount of segments just to do this.

Now that we’re clear on what a segment is, let’s work on intending. Intending is basically setting your dominant intentions for how you want something to turn out. This is the same sort of idea as waking up and deciding you’re going to have a great day. Segment intending is taking it a step further and deciding how you want each segment to be.

The best, most basic example is when you’re driving. As soon as you get into the car, decide how this drive is going to be. Is traffic going to flow smoothly? Will you be patient and happy? It’s all about setting yourself up for success and attracting what you want in every part of life.

This has already worked for me in small, yet extremely helpful ways. Around our house, going grocery shopping with our mom can honestly be a downright chore. I dislike going to the store as it is, but going with her is easily the most stressful part of the week. Don’t take this the wrong way, she’s my mother and I love her. The thing is, I can’t change her, and I know that. As much as I can help her try to stress out less, I can’t just change her.

I know that the only thing I can change is me. With segment intending, before we even head to the store, I set the intention that the trip to the store is going to go smoothly. Then, as we drive to the store, and shop, I keep telling this to myself. This might sound cheesy and simple, but it works. The key is doing it.

Like most actions that can help better our lives, most of us know what we need to do, we just don’t do it. The only way to change your own life is to take action and change it. So now it’s your turn. I invite you to pick one segment of your day, starting today, that you can set intentions for. Start with one, and go from there.

Segment intending is a practice that can snowball into major change, if we consistently use it. Personally, I plan on continuing to use it as much as I can, in order to get closer to my goals. I know that I can use this for blogging, deliveries, going to the store, going to the gym, working around the house, and so much more.

This can even work for my fat loss goals. Currently, my goal is to go 90 days in a row counting calories. Every time I eat, be it a meal or a snack, I can set intentions to track calories and optimize my food choices. For someone who is often anxious about food and making the right choices, this is really helping me. It helps me focus on the next segment right before the segment, instead of worrying about it too far in advance. I also know that I will make better choices when I make time to set intentions.

Segment intending regarding fat loss will also help me plan healthy choices when I’m out and about. Instead of just winging it and most likely not making the best decisions, I know that I am able to make better decisions through planning and intending. Segment intending gives me a greater sense of control over each food decision. Control may seem a bit extra, but not having control usually leads me to a binge.

Awareness is also a happy side effect of segment intending. Setting intentions means you have to be aware of what is happening in your life, so it limits autopilot. This is also important for fat loss, because a lot of unhealthy eating is done when we’re on autopilot if our normal habits and comfort zone is junk food. We have to stay aware in order to make good choices.

Overall, segment intending can do a lot for us, if we choose to let it. What about your life? In the comments below, I invite you to share what intentions you will choose to set for which segments of your life. Also, if you try this and it works, I’d love to know! Happy Holidays to you and yours!

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The Power of Self-Care and Living in the Present

By December 5, 2017 Depression, General, Law of Attraction, Mental Health

The darker, colder months are quickly approaching, and winter is coming, if you will. For those who have brains that are chemically balanced and are not prone to depression, these months can be magical, I’m sure. However, if you’re one of the lucky ones whose brains just don’t work like that, the winter months are hard. For me, this is the first winter since I stopped taking Zoloft. It hasn’t even snowed yet, and depression has already come for me once. I think I could tell it was coming, by the way tears would form behind my eyes at random times, for absolutely no reason. Mostly I think I was just trying to ignore the signs, like denial would stop this from coming.

Those of you who have experienced depression know that denial will not stop this from happening.

Now, if you’ve been paying attention and following along with me, you’re probably wondering how this happened so quickly after the post on meditation. In this post, I discussed how meditation can greatly help with controlling emotions and reactions to the world around us. Meditation does, in fact, help with controlling emotions, but more so emotions in relation to reactions. Meditation helps with what we’ll call reaction emotions, but does not help with depression, because it’s not just a reaction. Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in our brains. Technically, meditation has the power to ease depression because of it’s endorphin releasing power, but for me, at least, when I’m depressed I have no motivation to meditate.

Depression has a way of stealing self-care from me. It sneaks up, and slowly makes it more difficult to complete seemingly small, everyday tasks. For me, meditation was the first to go because it was the newest habbit I had added. Going to the gym went out the window a few weeks ago, so I should have known this was coming. Not in a self-deprecating way, but in a way to remind myself for the future. Making a note of this will help me see the signs in the future. Every episode of depression honestly helps me learn more about myself. Being able to see the positive side of depression means my brain is still changing for the better.

What I mean is that The Law of Attraction, meditation, and positive thinking made a difference during this depressive episode. Studying and practicing these things has really shifted my mindset to a more positive, observant setting, as opposed to being negative and reacting. This is especially important for depression. By having an elevated mindset, the depression lasted a shorter time, and I was more sensitive to it, which really helped me find the motivation to do something about it. Basically, because my new default is elevated, I didn’t allow my low to get as low as I have in the past. I trained my subconscious to always shoot for higher vibrations, so I was able to get out of the lower state a lot faster.

Most people would probably assume that enlightenment and higher vibrations would mean that depression can’t happen, but that’s just not the case. Being enlightened doesn’t mean you are magically exempt from illness, mental or physical. I wouldn’t expect to just not catch a cold or the flu just because I’m at a higher level of consciousness. The same goes for mental illness. Higher consciousness makes it so I am just more aware of being in a lower level and able to rise above much easier. It also allows me to be able to see the good side to everything, instead of just wallowing in despair. Wallowing gets us nowhere, but higher consciousness allows us to live our lives soaring above. Assuming I continue on this path to enlightenment, I expect my successive depressions to each be less disruptive than the last.

Now that we’ve gone over how this episode was different, I do want to discuss what helped me really get out of the darkest feelings during this one. The night I was at my lowest, I knew that meditation of some sort was what I needed to do in order to focus and pull myself up out of this. So, as is my nature, I went to Youtube in search of a meditation aimed at easing depression. I did find a few of those, and they were okay, but there was something else I found that really did the trick. Instead of meditation, this was more of an exercise to focus on the present and what is real, as opposed to getting overwhelmed by feelings depression that aren’t actually real.

With this exercise, the focus is on taking your attention away from emotions that aren’t physically real, to something that is physically real. The object that you end up focusing on is your own nose, so that you’re able to use this exercise literally anywhere on your own in the future. Focusing on something tangible really helps to ground yourself and find your way back to living in the present. It can be really easy to live in our own minds, reacting to our thoughts, but that honestly just leads to depression and anxiety. We just go around and around in these thoughts until they feel real and we get overwhelmed. That’s how anxiety and depression end up running and then ruining our lives, if we let them. That’s why it’s important to learn how to ground ourselves by focusing on the present. The video I watched does a much better job of explaining this and walks you through the exercise. This video is a little long, but I was up with insomnia that night, so time wasn’t really an issue. You can find that video here.

Honestly, I hadn’t been able to sleep easily in a week or two, and after watching this video, I slept so well. Even if you’re not currently depressed, please save this video somewhere. Keep this in your mental health toolkit, just in case. If you’re part of the population that doesn’t get depressed, please share this post or at least that video with a friend (at least) who could use it.

Having a mental health toolkit can be a way to save your own life if you’re prone to mental illness, so I may dive deeper into putting one together. Keeping self-care on track and learning how to ground ourselves in the present are just the beginning on the journey to understanding how to pull ourselves up out of the depths of depression. It also helps us know when to seek professional help. It’s good to do what we can to elevate ourselves, but if we get to the point where we just can’t do it on our own, it’s perfectly normal to ask for help. That’s why there are so many mental health professionals out there. They are part of our toolkit as well. Utilize them when needed. We deserve to ask for help. We deserve to take care of ourselves because we’re worth more than depression.

Rise above.

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The Secret Unlocked by Meditation

By November 27, 2017 General, Health and Fitness, Law of Attraction

For a while now, I’ve known that time is a construct of man. This is a pretty commonly known fact among people even slightly awake. Time doesn’t exist in nature. Animals don’t participate in this system. Nature doesn’t either! Trees don’t have schedules. They just live their lives. My belief is that people would be healthier beings if they did too, but that is neither here nor there.

Time being a construct of man isn’t the idea I just unlocked by meditating, though. The past week I have been meditating morning and night, as is part of my ideal day. It has really been helping me center myself and be able to more easily observe life as opposed to reacting to everything. Shoot, it has even been helping me stay in control of my emotions when my dad is on a narcissistic rampage. This is the week before my period, even! This is the most emotional week I have every month, and I have been in near complete control of my emotions. As an empath, this is huge. This isn’t even the secret I uncovered! It’s really just a happy side effect.

Are you ready for this? I wasn’t, at first, but now that I know, my soul just feels so calm.

Stress is optional.

Now, hear me out, I know humans have a fight or flight response to danger. This is basic science. The thing is though, fight or flight is there to save us from real danger. Lions and bears and fires. Do most of us experience these things on a daily basis though? Absolutely not, and if you do, I am so sorry. Though, if you’re reading this, I’m assuming you’re not regularly in any real danger. Bills aren’t going to murder you, your noisy neighbors aren’t endangering you, and your children screaming isn’t going to hurt you. Now, you might be doubting this because of the stress you feel in your life. Stressed out people have been known to be prone to heart attacks, but stress did that, not the things they were stressed out about! That’s the difference.

This may be hard to hear, but unless you’re in real danger every day, you’re choosing stress. Instead of running your life, you’re letting stress run your life. Meditation can help, if you’re open to letting it.

Okay, so what about those people who have high stress jobs? You know, firemen, EMTs, surgeons? Those people have to know how to keep their cool. They know how to manage their stress. If they didn’t know how to do that, they wouldn’t make it in their fields, plain and simple. I like the example of firemen, because they are literally running into burning buildings on a daily basis. If situations hurt people, instead of the stress hurting them, we would run out of firemen before we were able to train more. In order to succeed in a career that is actually stressful, these people have to be able to manage their stress levels by choosing how to handle stressful situations. Instead of reacting to these situations, these people undoubtedly observe situations and then decide what to do to handle them. Think about this: if surgeons weren’t able to manage their stress, what would their success rates look like? That’s a morbid example, sure, but I think it’s effective.

Meditation may have shown me this, but I’m not saying that all people with stressful lives meditate. Working out relieves stress, so I’m sure a lot of people with physically stressful jobs use that as a way to help. Working on creative endeavors also relieves stress. People take up an array of hobbies as a way to manage their stress. Meditation is just what I have been using. It’s also a completely free option that nearly everyone is able to utilize. All you need is your mind, and if you’re able to feel stress, you have a mind.

If you’re reading this, and you’re generally stressed out, I encourage you to try meditation. It’s so simple, and you can get started by finding a guided meditation on Youtube or Spotify. I’m sure Pandora, Itunes, and other streaming services have them, too. I just only use the first two. At first I would recommend using a guided meditation, as it can be difficult to sit in silence and just be present. For me, guided meditation was extremely helpful, but now I listen to tonal music while I focus on clearing my thoughts and just being present. A helpful visualization I use when it’s tough to get centered is to imagine roots coming out of my feet and going into the ground, connecting me to everything. Everything is energy and everything is connected.

Let’s say you’re just really not that interested in meditation. I can’t relate to that because I love quiet alone time, but that’s me. If this is you, though, I highly encourage you to find something. Find some sort of activity that will allow you to focus, be centered, and live in the present. Try to use something you already know how to do. If you don’t think you have an activity you know how to do that would qualify, I would suggest learning something. Just keep in mind that you may not be able to use this activity to center yourself while you learn it.

So that’s it. I mean, you don’t have to meditate or find something to center you in order to reduce the stress you feel. It’s your choice. Only you can choose to be stressed out all the time. Not me, though. I choose to meditate and stay calm. Even just meditating for a week now I can feel a change in my day to day life. Like I said, even hormonal me can keep it together right now. You won’t know how choosing calm observation will change you until you try.

You are absolutely worth more than stress.

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Planning Ahead for the Ideal Day

By November 20, 2017 Health and Fitness

Hey there! If you’ve been reading along, you’ll know that in my last post, we discussed how having an ideal plan for our day can really help get the ball rolling in terms of reaching goals. If you’re here for the first time, welcome! Also, I highly recommend reading (at least) the previous post to know where we’re at. This post is regarding how I’m going to go from my current stale daily routine to my ideal routine that will help me reach my goals. I invite you to do this exercise if you’re looking to get out of auto-pilot like I am.

Once I finished my ideal schedule, I noticed that there is a large area that I want to focus on making a habitual part of my day. It’s this blog! Creative endeavors have always been my favorite thing in life. With the necessary means, I would own an art studio full of pottery wheels, easels, and paint splatters. My current situation doesn’t warrant extra space for such things, but writing doesn’t take extra space. Writing also fills my heart with joy. Writing this blog fulfills that, but it also allows me to help others at the same time. Helping people through creating is my dream.

The parts of my day I want to focus on making non-negotiable are the ones centered on blogging. Starting off, I don’t expect to spend a full two hours writing seven days a week. That’s the goal, but again, I’m not going to beat myself up if I don’t make it one hundred percent. At the same time, I am going to set myself up for success. I think the biggest reason I don’t end up writing is because I don’t plan for it, plain and simple. This is one of the downsides to having such a flexible schedule: I have to plan my own productivity. To counteract this less than desirable behavior, I am going to plan my day the night before, based on when I’m scheduled to deliver or what plans we have for the day. For example, tomorrow I know I don’t have any delivery time scheduled, so I can just follow my ideal schedule to the best of my ability.

Most days aren’t that free, however, so I will have to plan ahead for those days. Let’s say I know I have to work delivery driving during the morning – that’s something that throws off and enables procrastinator me. Instead of letting procrastination and indecisiveness win, I will plan ahead, rearrange my schedule, and get things done. A big pattern I have noticed is that given the opportunity, I will just do nothing because I have so much to do and don’t know where to start. I think this is my brain helping make my life as comfortable as possible, as it is hardwired to do, but it’s not ideal. Staying comfortable is getting me nowhere fast. In order to rewire this and create a new auto-pilot, I need to plan ahead.

This exercise will do more than just help with my goals, though. There is a mental health component in all of this, for me at least. I have noticed that I’ve been starting to spiral down a little bit, and I’m trying really hard not to let myself spiral too far into the darkness. Laundry hasn’t been getting done, I’ve been feeling ill (IBS has a direct correlation to anxiety and depression, and IBS makes me sick), personal hygiene has been lax (showers are non-negotiable, nothing that big, thank goodness), and I haven’t been out to see friends in a few weeks. I’m sure there are other signs, but it’s hard to see when you’re in the fog. All of this spiraling down makes me glad that I included self-care and cleaning into my ideal day. I’m going to chart how close I come each day to living ideally as a way to keep track of any spiraling.

I can’t spiral. I don’t have time to spiral. Spiraling is not financially an option for me.

Mental health isn’t something that should be able to break people financially, and I get that. This is the world we live in, though, and I am persevering.

Moving on, now.

Prioritizing my time is ultimately what is going to get my life on track. I absolutely refuse to let life run me because I am in control of my universe and my destiny. How about you? Are you in control, or is life running you? If you’re stuck in an auto-pilot rut, most likely you’re not taking action and utilizing your time to the best of your ability. I only say that because that’s what’s going on in my life. So maybe you are always working, but are you working on things that align with your life goals? If you’re unhappy in any part of your life, I encourage you to take a look and figure out why. Figure out where you want to be and where you are now, then set goals. Use your goals to figure out your ideal day and then do what it takes for you to get there. Once you’re living your life in alignment with your goals, you’re bound to reach them. Keep your vibrations high and you’ll be living on a higher plain.

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The Ideal Day

By November 13, 2017 Finances, General, Health and Fitness, Law of Attraction

Hey there! This post is primarily going to pertain to how I want my ideal day to be. By having an idea of how I want to spend my time based on my goals, I can act on this schedule to move closer to my goals. The idea here is to figure out what you want to achieve and what you need to do to get there. For example, I know that in order to lose weight, I need to go to the gym. This is what I want for myself, so I know I need to make time in my day for this.

Let’s say you know what your goal is, but you’re not sure what to do each day to work towards that goal. That’s completely understandable because we all can’t be experts on everything. We wouldn’t be here if we were! So if you aren’t sure what to do each day, think of people who have already achieved what you want, figure out what they do, and do that! This is where you need to do research and figure out what successful people do and how they became successful. This is why I watch as many videos as I can on Youtube about major weight loss. This is also why I recently picked up a book on finances. I know that I need to learn more about how to make my financial situation better in order to get to where I’m going in life.

Alright, let’s get into what I envision as my ideal day, then we’ll move on to what’s next. Now, I don’t currently have a set schedule, so I blocked my schedule out into day parts. This works for me, but if you have a set schedule with set blocks of time, please, by all means, set up your ideal day with those blocks.

Here’s my ideal day:

Morning (10AM)
Wake Up
Meditate
Gratitude Journal (coffee)
Youtube Law of Attraction
Self Care (shower, wash face, brush teeth, do hair…)
Breakfast

Noon
2 Hours of Blogging
-Writing
-Editing
-Social Media Marketing

Early Afternoon
Lunch
Clean the Kitchen
Laundry
Clean Bedroom
Play with Doggos

Late Afternoon
Work
-Deliver Food (if scheduled)
-Blog Research
-Cleaning
-Law of Attraction Videos
Run Errands
Make/Eat Dinner
Clean Up Dinner

Evening
Gym
Finances
Self Care

The Hour Before Bed

Reading/Educational Videos
Meditate

That’s it! This did take me a whole day to put together, but I think it was easier because I wrote each day part as I went through that part of the day. Now, this is a general guideline for me, because my schedule is so inconsistent. This should work for most days, but not all. I’m not going to sweat it if I have to do things out of order, because I know I’ll get it all in. The same thing is to be said about my individual time blocks. If it’s almost time to eat and I’m hungry, I’m going to eat. I’m not going to “check more items off” to get to the next meal. As with anything I talk about on here, you definitely need to use common sense with this. Also, waiting to eat would probably just compromise the quality of whatever tasks you do first. It’ll probably alter your mood, which lowers your vibrations. It’s all about balance.

A realization I had about implementing time to work on my goals is that the more time I spend working on the various aspects of my life, the less time I’ll have to sit around and snack. So even though I am not focused completely on manifesting weight loss, this excercise in self-discipline will help. Looking at where I am now versus my ideal day, I realized I spend a lot more time sitting around than I’d like to admit. What about you? Do you have some not-so-great habits that would be easier to break by focussing your time on reaching your goals? Feel free to let me know in the comment section below.

Another area of my life I’m going to be improving upon by having an ideal day is mental health. As previously mentioned, I am prone to anxiety and depression. One of the pitfalls of not having a set schedule is that it’s difficult for me to notice when I start spiraling down into a dark place. I am aware of my warning signs, but not having schedule patterns makes it very easy to overlook these signs. For example, it’s easy for me to forget to hydrate, and too often I won’t notice until I’m already dehydrated enough to make depression symptoms worse. Having a schedule to measure my day by will allow me to look for the beginnings of a spiral. For me these are actions such as neglecting cleaning and not eating actual meals. Everyone is different though, and I’m not a medical professional, but if you are prone to darkness, this could help. At the very least, it’s helpful to know your own patterns to know when to ask for help.

So, even if you aren’t prone to darkness, having an ideal schedule and goals can still be beneficial for your life. In this time where people spend more time zoned into screens than ever, we tend to let life pass us by. I honestly believe this is a large part of why so many of us feel stuck and haven’t accomplished as much as we could. That’s also why I love Youtube videos for learning. We’re stuck to our phones all day anyhow, so we might as well use it for knowledge and growth. Vlogs are also excellent for those of us with mental health issues because we are able to learn how to cope as well as see that we’re not alone. That is especially helpful in this era of false perfection being fed to us on social media.

Let’s put our phones down, quit comparing ourselves to false images, and make our own lives better. Today is all we really have, so let’s make the most of it while we’re here!

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Manifestation Challenge Results – Sort Of

By November 6, 2017 Challenge, Finances, General, Health and Fitness, Law of Attraction

Hey there! If you’re new here, welcome! If you’re a return reader, I do applaud you at this point. Way to go you, for sticking with me. Little old me over here with my human inconsistencies and all that good stuff. So, if you’re returning, I applaud you, but I also apologize. I made it through day 3 of the manifestation challenge before I just ran out of steam. I think that’s the best term. Mostly, I think this just fizzled out like we tend to let so many things do.

I have seen this happen in my own life before, which leads me to believe it has happened to you as well. When I went into this, I didn’t fully schedule this into my day. I personally didn’t commit to a set time and figure out how my day would look with extra energy focused on manifesting. I realized that I never really put a plan into place of when I would make time to say affirmations and visualize. I told you to do it and how to do it, but I never did it myself. Shame. Shaaaaame.

10 points to Gryffindor if you understood that reference.

The other issue with what I did was I really wasn’t there for weight loss affirmations. So why did I choose that? I think I chose that for you guys. I think I chose that because I thought that’s what you guys would want to read about. As much as I do want to lose weight and am trying to do so, I know that I can manifest that without affirmations. I think knowing that hindered my drive to do the challenge. In the time since I encountered this road block I have realized that what I want to manifest more than anything is money. That may sound a bit shallow, but hear me out.

Growing up, we always had just enough to get by, and I am very grateful for this, but I now know there can be more if we allow it. As an adult, I am seeing more and more that unknowingly my parents were stuck in a poverty cycle. Yes, we always had what we needed, but we had to go through a struggle to get there. They honestly believed that they were only ever going to be poor, so that’s how things always were. I’m not saying that’s what they wanted, but that’s what they believed, so it was true. So I’m working on changing this cycle. I am going to be wealthy, but not just for me. I’m doing it for them as well as my future children. My parents deserve to retire comfortably, and my future children deserve to have college funds.

The other major reason I’m focused on manifesting money is because my mom and I (and possibly my sister and her boyfriend) are moving out of my dad’s house in 2018. 100% we are moving out. We are moving out because while we all love my dad and appreciate everything he has done for us over the years, he has become extremely narcissistic and emotionally abusive within the last few years. We deserve better than to have to walk on eggshells in our own home, so we’re moving out. Our plan is to find a 3 bedroom home with 2 bathrooms and a basement. Moving out is the most important thing because we deserve a home where we can live freely, change things, and do what we want. Currently we don’t have that, in any way.

Now, some of you may be thinking that I should focus on losing weight primarily because health is the most important. I agree with you, but we’re to the point where living here is even limiting what I am able to work on health wise because of the amount of control my dad has here. I realized that I need to continue to work out but focus on manifesting money in order to move out to help with long term mental and physical health. Also, when I’m spending spare time focusing on manifesting money, I won’t have extra time to spend mindlessly snacking. This will all work out.

One other thing I wanted to touch base on is that while I hit a road block with this manifestation challenge, I don’t regret it and I’m not beating myself up. This is a perfect example of why I’m writing this as I go. Hiccups like this most likely wouldn’t make it into a writing about my journey written after the fact. They just wouldn’t. By writing about it now, I’m accepting what happened and working around it while setting an example. With documentation of this hiccup, we can all learn from it and be prosperous together.

Now I am going to figure out what an ideal day should look like for me, and then make changes to get there. I will block out time to write, time to visualize, and time to take care of myself by meditating and lifting weights. Once I get my ideal day figured out, I’ll post it here and let you guys know what I’m doing next.

Even if we only do 1% better each day, that’s still 365% improvement in a year. Think of what we can do in a decade.

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Day 3 of the Manifestation Challenge

By October 25, 2017 Challenge, Finances, General, Health and Fitness, Law of Attraction

Woah, is it really day three already? Time sure flies when you’re creating your own reality! If you’re following along, we’re on day three of our manifestation challenge. If you’re here for the first time, welcome! I would recommend going back to the previous posts so you can get in on the challenge as well. The more, the merrier, and it’s never too late to start!

So, it’s only been three days, but I actually feel more confident in my affirmations. The scientist in me says it could just be a placebo effect, but at the same time, it feels like this is actually working, which really helps. I already feel a bit more in control of my eating habits, which is really big for me. My relationship with food before lately has been rocky at best.

Since we’re only on day three, there’s not a lot to post about regarding the challenge, but I do want to touch on something that is also helping me. What I’ve noticed about manifesting is that when we do, it becomes easier to get what we want when we surround ourselves with what we want to manifest. For example, I’m changing my eating habits, so in my free time, I’ve been reading a book pertaining to overcoming food addiction.

This has been especially helpful for me on more than one occasion, and for more than just manifesting. When I first started getting to the gym on a regular basis, I constantly watched Youtube videos on weight lifting for weight loss. I learned as much as I possibly could. Without realizing it, by watching videos of people losing a significant amount of weight by starting with weight lifting, I was rewiring my brain to believe that I can do this, too.

So, whatever it is that you want to change, become an expert on that. Even if you’re not into using the law of attraction, by surrounding yourself with what you want, you’ll get it. The more you learn about finances, the easier it’ll be to reach your financial goals. That’s just one example of what we can do to change anything in our lives.

Even if you’re not taking part in the manifestation challenge, I invite you to try surrounding yourself with what you want to change. Become an expert at what you want to change, and it’ll happen. If you try this, or if you already do this, I invite you to share your experience in the comment section below. I would absolutely love hearing from you!

Keep on manifesting what you desire, and have an excellent day. Take care!

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Manifestation Challenge Day 1

By October 23, 2017 Health and Fitness

Hello there!

As promised in yesterday’s post, today is the first day of our manifestation challenge. For me, losing weight and being in control of my eating habits is an important goal. I have been heavy for my entire life, but I’m not even at my highest weight currently. 420 pounds was my highest documented weight, and I will never get back there. 290 pounds was my lowest adult weight, so I know I can do it, I just didn’t get down to a healthy weight. Since I don’t have a reference point for a healthy weight, my subconscious has easily been able to keep replaying negative self talk. Not anymore. This is my hardest goal, so that’s why I decided to use it for this challenge.

This is the page in my journal where I started the challenge today. You can see the affirmations I chose as well as where I’m at currently. I included my current weight so that there is some sort of numerical component. Sometimes numbers make progress easier to see.

Now, I do want to mention that when I say these affirmations each day, I also feel how it feels to be those things. I feel calm, in control, light, energized, confident, happy, and slim. Because these affirmations are connected to my physical vessel, I also have to work to disconnect from my actual feelings currently. In order to truly feel like my affirmations are real, I have to ignore all of my present feelings. It’s not necessarily easy, but it feels great so far!

Okay, so that would be step one. Step two is trust. That’s the reason I didn’t set a goal for the week. I trust that these affirmations will create such an impressive transformation that I don’t need a set goal for now. I know that at the end of the 7 days I will have control over my eating habits.

Step three is repetition. To get the most out of this challenge, these affirmations will be getting all of my extra energy and attention. I will go over my affirmations first thing out of bed, while I’m getting ready, during meals, in the car, at the gym, and before bed. For the most change, I will make sure I repeat these just before falling asleep at night.

Finally, I included my starting evaluation of the habits I’m changing, just like I want all of you to do. Seeing the changes will be a lot easier with a documented starting point.

Alright, now that I’ve got what I need to begin, it’s your turn. I invite you to leave a comment below stating what you intend to change and all of the day one information. I would really love to hear from you! Stay tuned for updates on how my 7 day challenge is going.

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